I am the member of a couple of Facebook groups, one that was specifically set up for single females wanting to have a baby on their own and another group that is specifically for people wanting to do IVF abroad. Both groups are filled with people from all walks of life, each with their own unique story. I often wonder if there is anyone in either group who has a story like mine, but as yet I haven’t found anyone.

Most are using fresh eggs or doing double donation (donated eggs and sperm) rather than using their own frozen eggs it seems.  So whilst it’s comforting to know there are people in similar situations to me, it seems everyone’s journey is different and you are intact alone in your own personal journey. I think what this means to me is that I know what’s ultimately best for me. I know my body well and whilst there are medical options, friendship opinions and options of others who have been in similar situations, I must trust my gut for this next chapter.

I am in the process of choosing a clinic which in itself is a mine field. As a single women doing this there are some countries that won’t treat you (eg: Czech Republic), then because I think I want to use an anonymous sperm donor there are some countries (such as the UK) that don’t allow that, then there are countries like Spain who choose the sperm donor for you. Then you look at Greece and there are some good, highly recommended options there, but many clinics there haven’t had experience with using frozen eggs, so at the moment it is a process of elimination, what clinics in what counties can I use. Once I have determined that, I think a Phone consultation with each of the shortlisted ones and the follow my gut.

Hopefully in the next couple of weeks I will have made my decision and then it will be moving on to transporting my eggs and picking the donor sperm  so many decisions to make!